Parents constantly make the same mistakes when it comes to their children’s education and departure to college. This is especially true for families where overprotection prevails instead of nurturing, even for fully grown adults.

How can these mistakes be avoided, and how can the transition be made as comfortable as possible for a son or daughter facing one of the most challenging tasks of their adult life? This article will also explore how to prevent making your child resent you and how to maintain a healthy, positive relationship.

Academic And Personal Success

Let’s dive right into a crucial point. Academic and personal achievement are the essential key criteria that your child should strive for. Unfortunately, personal achievement cannot occur if you continue to be overprotective of them.

First and foremost, you must give your child freedom of choice. If they do not want to or no longer wish to study certain subjects, there is no point in persuading them to stay. If they objectively find studying difficult, there is no need to blame them for the entertainment they use as an outlet. Instead, you can advise them to seek third-party assistance, for example, hiring expert writers for your MBA dissertation.

This is especially relevant advice if your child is attempting to balance work and study simultaneously. Their education will come with practice or with practice if they have chosen the very work they will continue doing.

Seeking help in this regard is one of the most rational solutions in this case because, in our world, everything depends on connections, and it is better to rely on them than on written works. Properly delegating responsibilities is a good start for developing leadership skills and time management. Advise, don’t accuse.

Communication And Planning

Now, let’s consider the matter of communicating with your child. You can find information about this in the list below:

  • Never get angry or blame your child for their mistakes. Ultimately, they are their mistakes, and they should be responsible for them. Instead, delineate the boundaries that both you and your child must follow. Remind them that any misstep on their part will lead to irreversible consequences, which they alone will answer for without your help. There’s no need to repeat this constantly, but rather than judging or aggression, you can gently remind them of this occasionally. If you’re overwhelmed with emotions, you can write a reflective piece yourself, which should definitely help cool you down.
  • Try creating a plan together for handling any unforeseen situations with their career or studies. It’s quite common for people to struggle with balancing work and school, leading to emotional burnout. This is a completely normal situation in modern times that one needs to be prepared for, and you should not blame your child if it happens to them. They’re already having a difficult time, so instead, offer your financial or moral support.
  • Keep a relaxed tone when discussing things with your child instead of lecturing or attempting control. Again, your child is already dealing with enough challenges. Excessive attention and attempts at control from you may only push your child away further. No one enjoys being lectured after studying and then working a shift.
  • Treat your child not as a possession that owes you something but as a friend. As much as parents may not want to admit it, your child doesn’t owe you anything.

The key points are using a supportive, non-judgmental approach when communicating, offering help instead of criticism, respecting boundaries and independence, and relating as equals rather than trying to control.

Adjusting To Dorm Life

Living in a dorm can be either utter hell or a breath of fresh air for your child. You need to help adapt your child to their future dorm life and try to instill basic adaptation skills for new environments. If you’ve already missed that window and your child is about to turn 16, then you need to provide them as much assistance as possible to help them feel comfortable.

Unfortunately, there is not much specific advice here. You won’t be able to do much directly regarding this situation, but you can guide your child in the right direction. Try to inspire your child from the very start to get involved in campus life and various student activities that will help them socialize and make new friends immediately. This will lead him to leadership in the future. Also, advise them on some aspects of financial independence, which will be an extremely important lesson for every young person.


The transition from relating to your child to relating to an adult who is about to grow up and become a completely separate person is quite difficult. Not every parent can bring themselves to do it, but you need to prepare yourself for this process mentally. You may reminisce about your child’s antics and think until the end of your life that they remained a little boy or girl in your memory. Unfortunately for you, everything changes, and your child grows up.

If you continue treating them like a small child, it will only distance them from you both physically and emotionally. Maintain a healthy balance and treat your child exclusively as a comrade and friend.

It would help if you started doing this immediately after they began studying at a higher education institution. It’s also advisable to begin this transition from high school when a child first encounters adult problems and enters adolescence.

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